EIL Quotes
Consciousness of Context
Environmental Awareness
- In order to understand people, we have to understand their way of life and approach. If we wish to convince them, we have to use their language in the narrow sense of the mind. Something that goes even much further than that is not the appeal to logic and reason, but some kind of emotional awareness of the other people.—Nehru, Indian statesman
- Culture hides more than it reveals and strangely enough what it hides, it hides most effectively from its own participants. Years of study have convinced me that the real job is not to understand foreign culture but to understand our own.—Edward T. Hall, anthropologist
Group Savvy
- Synergy is the highest activity of life; it creates new untapped alternatives; it values and exploits the mental, emotional, and psychological differences between people.—Stephen R. Covey, author, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
- The key elements in the art of working together are how to deal with change, how to deal with conflict, and how to reach our potential…the needs of the team are best met when we meet the needs of individual persons.—Max DePree, author, Leadership Jazz
Consciousness of Self
Emotional Self-Perception
- Emotions get in the way but they don’t pay me to start crying at the loss of 269 lives. They pay me to put some perspective on the situation.—Ted Koppel, journalist
- I choose not to give energy to the emotions of revenge, hatred, or the desire to subjugate.—Rosanne Cash, singer
- I could work out a lot of my emotions by going to class and dancing.—Suzanne Farrell, ballerina
Honest Self-understanding
- Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an under- standing of ourselves.—Carl Jung, psychologist
- People of the world don’t look at themselves, and so they blame one another.—Rumi, poet and philosopher
- Know thyself.—Socrates, philosopher
- Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.—Helen Keller, author
- You can do what you have to do, and sometimes you can do it even better than you think you can.—Jimmy Carter, thirty-ninth president of the United States of America
- If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.—Fred Rogers, host of Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood
Emotional Self-Control
- Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary.—Mark Twain, author
- When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.—Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People
- People don’t ask for facts in making up their minds. They would rather have one good, soul-satisfying emotion than a dozen facts.—Robert Keith Leavitt, author
Authenticity
- If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.— Mark Twain, author
- Let the people know the truth and the country is safe.— Abraham Lincoln, sixteenth president of the United States of America
- The truth is the kindest thing we can give folks in the end.— Harriet Beecher Stowe, author, Uncle Tom’s Cabin
Flexibility
- Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless—like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.—Bruce Lee, actor
- As any jazz musician knows, it takes flexibility and adaptability for improvisation to create beauty.—Doc Childre and Bruce Cryer, authors, From Chaos to Coherence
- New ideas stir from every corner. They show up disguised inno- cently as interruptions, contradictions, and embarrassing dilem- mas. Beware of total strangers and friends alike who shower you with comfortable sameness, and remain open to those who make you uneasy, for they are the true messengers of the future.—Rob Lebow, author, A Journey into the Heroic Environment
Optimism
- I believe that traditional wisdom is incomplete. A composer can have all the talent of Mozart and a passionate desire to succeed, but if he believes he cannot compose music, he will come to nothing. He will not try hard enough. He will give up too soon when the elusive right melody takes too long to materialize.— Martin Seligman, author, Learned Optimism
- Leaders with that kind of talent are emotional magnets; people naturally gravitate to them. If you think about the leaders
- with whom people most want to work in an organization, they probably have this ability to exude upbeat feelings. It’s one reason emotionally intelligent leaders attract talented people—for the pleasure of working in their presence.—Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Annie McKee, authors, Primal Leadership
Initiative
- Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.—Conrad Hilton, founder, Hilton Hotels
- I would rather regret the things I have done than the things I have not.—Lucille Ball, actress
- If opportunity doesn’t knock—build a door.—Milton Berle, actor
Achievement
- It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.—Sir Edmund Hillary, mountaineer
- That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well.—Abraham Lincoln, sixteenth president of the United States of America
- You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.—Albert Einstein, theoretical physicist
Consciousness of Others
Empathy
- Successful leaders lead with the heart, not just the head. They possess qualities like empathy, compassion and courage. They also have the ability to establish deep, long-term and genuine relation- ships where others trust them.—Bill George, author, True North
- How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striv- ing and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.—George Washington Carver, American educator and inventor
Inspiration
- People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals—that is, goals that do not inspire them.—Anthony Robbins, motiva- tional speaker
- Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others.—Plato, philosopher
- Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.—Ralph Waldo Emerson, poet
Influence
- Clearly the leader who commands compelling causes has an extraordinary potential influence over followers. Followers armed by moral inspiration, mobilized and purposeful, become zealots and leaders in their own right.—James MacGregor Burns, author, Leadership
- People change what they do less because they are given analysis that shifts their thinking than because they are shown a truth that influences their feelings.—John Kotter, author, The Heart of Change
- Leaders not only influence followers but are under their influence as well.—Ron Heifetz, author, Leadership Without Easy Answers
Teamwork
- All great relationships, the ones that last over time, require pro- ductive conflict in order to grow. This is true in marriage, parent- hood, friendship, and certainly business.—Patrick Lencioni, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
- When a team outgrows individual performance and learns team confidence, excellence becomes a reality.—Joe Paterno, football coach, Pennsylvania State University
Conflict Management
- If we manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development.—Kenneth Kaye, author
- When conflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.—Thomas Crum, author and presenter
- Never in this world can hatred be stilled by hatred; it will be stilled only by non-hatred; this is the law eternal.—Siddhartha Gautama, founder of Buddhism
- Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.—William James, psychologist and philosopher
- Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”—C. S. Lewis, author, Chronicles of Narnia
- All I can say is the most important part of being in a relationship is that you love the person for who they are.—Liv Tyler, actress
Coaching
- Make sure that team members know they are working with you, not for you.—John Wooden, former UCLA basketball coach
- Our chief want in life is somebody who makes us do what we can.—Ralph Waldo Emerson, philosopher and poet
- Coaching is a profession of love. You can’t coach people unless you love them.—Eddie Robinson, football coach, Grambling State University
Citizenship
- Let us at all times remember that all American citizens are brothers of a common country, and should dwell together in bonds of fraternal feeling.—Abraham Lincoln, sixteenth president of the United States of America
- A nation, as a society, forms a moral person, and every member of it is personally responsible for his society.—Thomas Jefferson, third president of the United States of America
Change Agent
- There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction.—Winston Churchill, former British prime minister
- Leadership is a relationship, founded on trust and confidence. Without trust and confidence, people don’t take risks. Without risks, there’s no change. Without change, organizations and move- ments die. Whatever the challenge, all involve a change from the status quo.—Kouzes and Posner, authors, The Leadership Challenge
- The single most important message of this book is very simple. People change what they do less because they are given analysis that shifts their thinking than because they are shown a truth that influences their feelings.—John Kotter, author, The Heart of Change
- The price of the democratic way of life is a growing appreciation of people’s differences, not merely as tolerable, but as the essence of a rich and rewarding human experience.—Jerome Nathanson, journalist
- If we cannot end now our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity.—John F. Kennedy, thirty-fifth presi- dent of the United States of America
